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Seven Steps To Using the Law of Attraction to Manifest Your Dreams

 
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I watched The Law of Attraction documentary on Netflix, featuring The Minds Behind The Secret. It sounds invigorating, but it begged the question….. does this work?

The documentary outlined visioning things and creating a vision board, but nothing really sounded concrete. Could I really make things happen in my life simply by thinking about them? Would the law of attraction work for me?

What is The Law of Attraction?

Law of Attraction is the belief that having positive thoughts about your life and future will “attract” more positivity and prosperity in your life. (And who doesn’t want that, right?)

Simply put, I believe that I’ll have a beautiful home and then I get a beautiful home.

Does The Law of Attraction work?

I know… It really, really doesn’t sound real.

If getting everything you want was THAT simple, we would’ve found a solution for world peace, cancer and bad heartbreaks a long time ago.

I would’ve been much more skeptical if my best friend hadn’t forced me to make a vision board years earlier. I’d used the law of attraction to manifest my Master’s degree, a high paying job and now, my fiance. It worked, but even after watching the movie, I couldn’t figure out why.

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Why It Works?

The Law of Attraction starts with you approaching the world around you with positivity and believing in yourself.

At its core, the Law of Attraction is in line with the most basic level of optimism, trust and confidence.

If you can be optimistic about your own life, trust that the things you want are available to you, and embrace confidence that you can achieve your dreams….. then the Law of Attraction will work for you.

How To Practice the Law of Attraction

OK. I’m gonna make a quick shift from the big picture and dive deep into how you can start to do this in your life Every. Single. Day.

You’ll notice that this has a bit of overlap with my post on manifestation. That’s because the Law of Attraction is the guiding principle that allows manifestation to happen.

Kinda like how gravity is the reason a ball falls to the ground when you drop it.

Law of Attraction, like gravity, is the principle or rule. Manifestation is the outcome (like the ball falling to the ground).

Side note: Also, similar to gravity, the Law of Attraction is happening. If you’re putting negative energy out into the world and feeling defeated, that’s what you will manifest.

These rules are the actions you can take daily to ensure the Law of Attraction works the way that we want - to get the things we want in life. To accomplish our goals. To live our dreams.

Get clear on what you want to accomplish

The Law of Attraction can’t work to achieve your dreams if you have no idea what your dreams are.

That’s like getting into a car and starting to drive with no destination - and then wondering why the GPS isn’t working.

You don’t have to know exactly what you want, but you do need a general idea.

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Visualize it

Visualizing is a core principle of the Law of Attraction. This is where you see yourself in a state of accomplishing the goals that you set. It helps with making the dream real in your mind before it’s ever a reality.

We are huge advocates for using vision boards to create a collage of your dreams, but you can use pictures, affirmations or even a Pinterest board.

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Believe that it’s coming

The second core idea of the Law of Attraction is trust.

You really have to trust that your goal is possible. This is the step where many people stop.

If you approach your goals by believing that you’ll never get there to begin with, there’s no way you’ll achieve them. You won’t work as hard. You will feel defeated before you start.

Trust that you can do this…. Because you can :) Don’t stop now.

Work on it

Contrary to popular belief, manifesting doesn’t happen simply because you thought good thoughts.

You have to work like you expect your dreams to come true. You must act as if you’re able to achieve it.

Let’s imagine that you want to write a book. So you set your intentions, you created a vision board and you truly believe that the world will love your stories.

What comes next?

Well, what does someone who wants to write a book do? They write.

Believing you’ll have a great book doesn’t make a great book appear. You write it.

Or you don’t.

For anything to “manifest” you HAVE to put in the work.

How To Start Attracting Your Dreams Today

Just in case you’re so excited that you want to start right this minute:

  1. Set your intention! :) Write down one thing you want to accomplish.

  2. Act as if you know it’s coming. Start working towards it and truly believe it will come.

  3. Create an affirmation to help you push through. Check out my post on affirmations here.

The law of attraction might seem unattainable. Trust me, I know how difficult it can be to believe in something that you can’t yet see or feel.

If you look at every step of the Law of Attraction, at its core all you’re really doing is setting a goal and working towards it. That’s what brings you to creating your reality. You’re actively engaging in your life to make your dreams come true. You’re preparing yourself to take advantage of the opportunities that come your way.

You can manifest anything you want.

What’s one thing you’ve been putting on the back-burner that you can move forward? Where is that dream that you didn’t quite have enough confidence to go after? What’s that thing in the pit of your stomach that you know you were meant to achieve in this life?

Take a step forward today.


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About Chantl

Chantl founded Thrive Lounge to give women the kick in the pants they need (lovingly, of course) to uncomplicate their goals, stop making excuses, get productive and start living the life they always wanted. Her book, Goal Doing: Practical Advice For Goal Setting, Action Planning and Achieving Your Dreams, gives women a step-by-step guide to create, plan and achieve their grandest goals.


What To Do When You Can't Hide Your Struggle Anymore

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 I recently shared my super painful debt story on Chain of Wealth Podcast. That interview inspired me to create this series. Rise From Rock Bottom tells every story from my failure years - and how I overcame them.

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At the age of 23, I had a Mercedes Benz truck. My primary source of income was my babysitting job. (I know, don't judge.

I had a boyfriend who insisted I trade in my convertible (that I loved) for this truck, which he’d “help out” with. (read: he’d pay the bill) I didn’t know how much that truck cost until we broke up and I received the first bill.

All in, the car cost me nearly a GRAND per month.

That’s without any maintenance factored in. I went to get new brakes once and it cost me $850. Replacing the windshield wipers cost me $125. #FacePalm

I struggled to keep making my car payments. I took on additional jobs as a freelancer at night and a waitress on the weekends.

My life turned into a never-ending hamster wheel of making money, paying off debt, using credit cards to feed myself, and then making more money to pay the credit cards off.… Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. 

It wasn’t long before I maxed out all three of my credit cards and had nothing left to hold me afloat.

So I did the unthinkable… 

I called up my car loan company and requested a voluntary repossession of my car. 

My credit would tank but I had to take the hit because the bills were tanking my life

Give your self permission to fall apart

I gave back my car and bought a very cheap 1993 hooptie with a trunk that didn’t close all the way. The lid, held down by a bungee cord, would wobble up and down as I drove. #definitelynotabenz

Each time I sat in the car, which smelled like rust and old age, I would start crying thinking to myself “I used to ride around in style. I used to love my beautiful car. And look at my life now.” 

I'm a freakin' loser. 

Before downgrading my car, I could easily lie to myself. I convinced myself I’d figure out my financial problems quickly and easily. I’m a smart girl, nothing would hold me back.

I finally faced my truth sitting in my hooptie: I was struggling. I was in pain. I was suffering - alone. That change is here and I can’t outrun it. I have to deal with it.

Yes, that was the first moment I fell apart. (And there were many more moments to follow.)

Don't try to hold everything in. Be honest with yourself - your life sucks. It's okay to let that pain out and cry if you need to.

Give your family a chance to support you

My friends and family knew I was struggling with big life changes and finding my way. But I’d put on my "I'm a big girl, I’ll figure this out" smile.

It was a very convincing facade.

On the inside I was panicking, wondering how I could’ve shoveled myself so deep in a hole, how I could be so stupid, how I could put myself in this position.

Pulling up in my busted up car was the first visible indication anyone had that my life wasn’t as peachy keen as I pretended. I couldn’t hide the fact that I was struggling anymore.

The beautiful gift in not being able to hide your pain is finally being able to talk about it.

Once you’re able to speak your truth, your friends and family have the opportunity to support you… and it may surprise you just how much love and support you receive during your darkest time.

Accept Your Life As It Is

After about a month of driving that car, I completely forgot that I once was a luxury car owner.

I started to own the fact that I was now the owner of this crappy car that took me from point A to point B. Over time, this became my new normal. 

Accept where your life is right now and that it was YOUR life decisions that got you here. This acceptance allows you to stop lamenting on the past, brings you into the present, and allows you to start preparing for your future.

 

Start To Laugh At Everything. 

There were several times where the cord that held my trunk closed would break and I’d have to pull over to re-tie it. The first time it snapped, I rested my forehead on the steering wheel and cried until I mustered up enough energy to get out of the car.

I thought to myself “look at me…this is what my life has come to.”

After a while, I’d built a unique skill for driving just slow enough over bumps and dips in the road so those rope-snapping moments became less frequent.

When the rope would break on occasion, I’d giggle to myself and say "Of course the rope broke in the middle of the highway... why wouldn't it?"

Laughing can make all of your hard moments… bearable.

 

Remember your story is not finished

When you hit a life rut, it can feel like there's no way you're going to get out of this.

When I was obviously on the boarder of breaking down and couldn't take my life any longer I had a friend who would tell me "If you're going through hell, just keep going." 

It wasn't very helpful for him to say that. I was hoping for something like "your brighter days are ahead" but there's really no way to tell when those brighter days will come.

Some days you just have to keep going.

As long as you don’t give up on yourself… as long as you’re still our here breathing… your story still has a chance at a happy ending.

 

Find The Tiniest Thing To Be Grateful For

Even though I was riding around in a hideous car that was forest green with a trunk that didn’t close, I no longer had to pay $1000 a month to maintain my car. I would never again have to worry about fixing breaks for $850 or windshield wipers for $125. 

Because I had reduced my spending by so much simply get getting rid of one large monthly expense, I was able to stop working as hard as I was.

Slowly, I started to regain my sanity, feel like myself and rebuild my life.

I was grateful for that opportunity… and my tribulation became my testimony.

xoxo

Are You Ready To Rise From Rock Bottom?

  1. Listen to my full debt story on the podcast that inspired the Rise From Rock Bottom series. 

  2. Build your skills and discover your passions with a FREE personal development class

  3. For more fun stories and tips on how to improve your life, grab my book Goal Doing: Practical Advice For Goal Setting, Action Planning and Achieving Your Dreams.


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About Chantl

Chantl founded Thrive Lounge to give women the kick in the pants they need (lovingly, of course) to uncomplicate their goals, stop making excuses, get productive and start living the life they always wanted. Her book, Goal Doing: Practical Advice For Goal Setting, Action Planning and Achieving Your Dreams, gives women a step-by-step guide to create, plan and achieve their grandest goals.

Eight Powerful Lessons You Gain When You Lose Everything

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I recently shared my super painful debt story on Chain of Wealth Podcast. This interview inspired me to create this series. Rise From Rock Bottom tells every story from my failure years - and how I overcame each one.


At the age of 25, I moved back home… into my mother's basement. I couldn't afford a bed so I bought a large blow-up mattress for $40.

Imagine a near-empty room, in a basement, no carpet, a blow up mattress and a computer desk.(Sounds, kinda jail-ish, doesn’t it?)  

I'm also a single mom so I shared that room with my daughter.

Just one year prior, I lived in a luxury (read:expensive) apartment in a great school district and riding around in my Mercedes Benz truck.

Talk about humbling...

I remember the first time I mustered up the courage to tell my friends that I would be getting rid of my fancy car. 

"But why!?" They asked.

"Are you sure?" They persisted.

I didn't have a choice. I could no longer afford my lifestyle.

First, I replaced the fancy car with a car that aligned with my income.

It was a ragged car and the trunk didn't close. A tiny string held the lid down just enough so that the truck appeared closed sometimes.

As I drove, the trunk would wobble up and down and other drivers would stop me to tell me that my trunk was open. Occasionally, the string would break in the middle of the street and I'd have to pull over to re-tie it.

Talk about humbling...

I eventually sold that car to help pay for school and began taking bus everywhere. (Also humbling.

I lived this lifestyle - in my mother's basement with my daughter - for nearly a year while I went to grad school.

That was the most transformative time in my life that gave me the skills, strength and flexibility to grow into the person I am today

These are the lessons I learned on that journey:

 

You can deflate your lifestyle and the world won’t fall apart

Lifestyle inflation hit me like a ton of bricks.

I didn't even realize that I was trying to keep up with social norms and expectations by moving to an expensive location (that I really couldn’t afford) so my daughter could attend "the good school."

I always thought that I was doing "the right thing" for my child, even if I was extending my finances too far.

When we did move out and she went to a school that didn't have a 9/10 rating on GreatSchools.org (that really means something to parents) SHE WAS FINE.

I realized that while looking for the “great school” and I completely discounted the work that I do at home as her parent. She still learns. She still gets a well rounded education. She’s still my brilliant little girl. She’s not defined by “the good school.”

 

Your Priorities

The quest to live on less to be able to discover my path meant that I would have to give up some things.

First, I gave up my car, then my apartment, then I gave up my outward appearance, then I gave up the obligations to others. Slowly, but surely, I realized that I had to de-prioritize things that didn’t matter to make myself a priority.

I felt more free every time I made the decision that something didn’t matter. For the first time in my life, my actions were matching up to my core values.

 

What you really need to be happy

You know, I really thought I needed that Benz to be happy.

I thought that having a luxury car (even though I had zero dollars in my bank account) meant that I was one of the elite. People looked at me differently when I pulled up in a Benz.

I was fancy. And I liked that feeling.

When I got rid of all of my car, I realized I love the feeling of not having a car. I love walking around in the summer and the cold breeze on my face in the winter. I feel refreshed and free.

You haven't lost anything

The second you start to give up on the "nice-to-haves" you start to realize that you can really live without them. 

The only things I gave up by not having a car were my car note, car insurance, regular maintenance and the occasional speeding ticket. To be honest, losing those things contributed more to my life because I was more care-free than ever before!

 

Your "real" friends

Some of your friends will start to remove themselves from your life (you know, the ones that only show up when it’s time to party). Once you stop spending money on things that aren't necessities, you may realize that you don't have as much in common with some folks. 

And that's OK.

You’ll also notice that there are your other friends. The ones that cheer you on as you start to pay off your debt. The ones that sit alongside you and study with you for the GRE. The ones that support you by showing up and being present in your darkest hour.

Your rock bottom is only the beginning for your strongest friendships.

 

You can rebuild your life the way you want

The most beautiful things about rock bottom is that you have nothing to lose.

You've likely suffered a fair amount of embarrassment. You've probably done all of the things you said you'd never do (like move back in with your parents). You may even have given up more times than you’d like to admit.

With nothing left anchoring you to who you were, you have the flexibility and opportunity to build the person you want to be. 

 

You won't do it alone

Poverty has a way of making you feel like you're the only one suffering. However, everyone's been through some sort of pain and suffering at some point. In fact, no matter how bad you feel there's always someone out there who has it ten times worse. 

Here's what will surprise you: Your friends and family will rally around you to lift you higher. (That's assuming you're a half way decent person and, therefore, have at least 1 friend.) 

 

You'll Learn To Love It

It can be difficult to make the transition to having a lot to having nothing. Change is hard.  

Maybe you feel bad for your predicament in the first week. But after a while, you'll start to notice a shift. You'll start to feel like yourself again. You'll realize that you can now move forward as who you want to be. 

You'll see that you're free to become you.

 xoxo

 

Ready To Accomplish Your Greatest Goals? 

  1. Start planning out your largest goals with the FREE Goal Planning Worksheet.

  2. Take a FREE personal development class on CreativeLive.

  3. Do you struggle with finishing the goals you start? Get clarity on your goals and the strategies to reach them with the ebook Goal Doing: Practical Advice For Goal Setting, Action Planning and Achieving Your Dreams.


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About Chantl

Chantl founded Thrive Lounge to give women the kick in the pants they need (lovingly, of course) to uncomplicate their goals, stop making excuses, get productive and start living the life they always wanted. Her book, Goal Doing: Practical Advice For Goal Setting, Action Planning and Achieving Your Dreams, gives women a step-by-step guide to create, plan and achieve their grandest goals.